Why You Shouldn’t Share Sex Toys Without These Precautions
Sharing is caring — but when it comes to sex toys, sharing without the right precautions can expose you (and your partner) to unnecessary risks.
Whether you're in a committed relationship, exploring with casual partners, or playing in a group setting, it's crucial to understand how to share toys safely and hygienically. Because while toys can massively enhance pleasure, they can also transmit bacteria or STIs if not handled properly.
This guide breaks down why sex toy hygiene matters, what the real risks are, and the simple precautions you can take to keep shared pleasure safe, satisfying, and stress-free.
Is It Safe to Share Sex Toys?
It can be — but only if you follow a few key rules.
Sex toys, especially those used for vaginal, anal, or shared stimulation, can transfer bodily fluids, bacteria, and viruses between users. This includes:
- Yeast infections
- Bacterial vaginosis
- Urinary tract infections (UTIs)
- Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like chlamydia, herpes, or HPV
Even if a toy looks clean, microscopic residue can remain — especially on toys made from porous materials.
That’s why safety isn’t just about cleaning — it’s about using the right barriers, materials, and cleaning and storing methods for your sex toys.
Toy Materials Matter: Porous vs Non-Porous
| Material Type | Examples | Safe to Share? | Notes |
| Non-Porous | Silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass | ✅ Yes, with cleaning or condoms | Easy to sterilise |
| Porous | TPE, jelly rubber, cyberskin | ⚠️ Only with condoms | Cannot be fully disinfected |
| ABS Plastic | Hard plastic bullets, handles | ✅ Mostly safe | Use caution if cracks develop |
Always check what your toy is made from. If it's non-porous, it can be shared with proper cleaning or a condom. If it's porous, you’ll need to use a condom — or better, avoid sharing entirely.
Safe Sharing Essentials: What to Do Every Time
🔸 1. Use Condoms on Shared Toys
Especially for:
- Anal play (even with yourself, before switching to vaginal use)
- Porous toys
- Multiple partners
Change condoms between users and orifices.
🔸 2. Clean Thoroughly Between Uses
- Wash with warm water and mild soap, or use an antibacterial toy cleaner
- For non-porous toys, boil for 3–5 minutes (if manufacturer allows)
- Always clean before and after use
Our full Sex Toy Cleaning Guide explains how to safely clean different materials.
🔸 3. Don’t Share Toys With Damaged Surfaces
Tiny cracks, tears, or peeling areas can trap bacteria and should be a hard no when it comes to sharing.
🔸 4. Use Gloves During Group Play
If toys are being swapped quickly between people or orifices, gloves and condoms make the process cleaner and safer.
Best Practices for Couples & Ethical Non-Monogamy
If you're in an open relationship or exploring group dynamics:
- Have an open discussion about comfort levels with toy sharing
- Create a “safe toy kit” with condoms, toy wipes, and gloves
- Label or colour-code toys to avoid mix-ups
- Choose body-safe, non-porous toys for shared use
According to Relate, talking openly about sex, desires, and boundaries is one of the best ways to build trust with your partner(s). This includes how you use — and share — toys.
❓ FAQ: Sharing Sex Toys
Is it safe to share a vibrator with my partner?
Yes, if it's non-porous and properly cleaned or used with a condom between users.
What if we’re fluid-bonded?
Even in committed relationships, hygiene matters — especially if switching between anal and vaginal use.
Can you use alcohol wipes instead of washing?
Only as a backup. Washing with soap and water is more effective for removing bacteria and residue.
Should I avoid sharing altogether?
Not necessarily. With the right precautions, sharing toys can be safe and satisfying.
Final Thoughts: Share Pleasure, Not Risks
Sex toys are made to be enjoyed — solo or with others. But safety and hygiene are non-negotiable when it comes to sharing.
By understanding toy materials, using condoms, and cleaning properly, you can keep every shared session safe, sexy, and stress-free.
Whether you’re shopping for something to enjoy together or expanding your kit for group fun, check out our Non-Porous, Body-Safe Toy Collection for models that are hygienic, durable, and perfect for safe shared play.